Sep 1, 2008

In our life, we often have to go through several relationships. Some may be bad experiences, but some may still leave beautiful memories for us. We often hear other's people experiences of being beaten by bf, gf found another guy or their love had fade and etc. Or maybe that may be YOUR experiences. Despite how bad things were, we still managed to fall in love again, just to hope that he or she may be the right one this time.


I often envy those who were with their bf/gf for a long period of time, and especially if its their first love, and get married and live happily ever after. Maybe because I weren't able to do so. Maybe because they won't have to experience the hurt of having their loved one leaving them.


I always say cherish, cherish, cherish. But is that really enough?? How many of us know how to do that??


Besides knowing to cherish, we also must know how to MAINTAIN our relationship.


The main thing in every relationship?? Love.



But love ain't enough to let the relationship last. On the other hand, if there's no love then there shouldn't be a relationship.


There are some people, who stay together with their partner even though love is gone. What are you trying to prove? That you're so great, you stay with her because you don't want her to feel hurt? Hello, you're simply wasting your bf/gf's time, by dragging them on, they probably would have found a much better person than you by then.


In a relationship, we often say there must be Trust.


Trust is not referring to just blindly I trust you, you trust me. To have the trust, first thing, you'll have to EARN IT. Letting your partner feel secure with you is the first step to letting them give you the trust. Promises given are part of it too. So of course, don't ever break your promise! Don't give those stupid reasons like, because you love me, you should trust me. Make yourself worthy of people trusting you. That applies to everyone you meet besides your bf/gf too!


And then, we must be Understanding.


Do your bf/gf always work till very late? And that is causing him to have the lack of time to accompany you? Stop nagging at your partner that. They're WORKING, my dear. If they don't work are you going to feed them? Put yourself in your bf/gf's shoes. If you're working hard, would you want to have them msging or calling you every half an hour?


Sometimes when things get too stagnant, or too boring, then we must have some Passion.


Passion as in doing something special. Like maybe its been a long while since you two had seen a movie, so maybe you can find some time to do that. Or maybe cooking together, making a card for her, buying a gift for her, or even as simple as just hugging together and watching a show at home. It doesn't mean being together for so long then don't have to do all these ok? No matter how long its been, its always sweet to have your partner doing something for you.



When quarrels happen, DO admit your mistake and apologise.

Its easy to read this now and say, 'Hey I always do that.' Sorry is a word that is damn difficult to say out de. You don't quarrel half way then go to bed thinking, its ok tomorrow everything will be fine again. You SOLVE the problem before you sleep. And eventually, there is certainly one party being in the wrong. Apologise for your mistake can melt the ice in between you two. And definitely, do it sincerely la!!!



Finally, Appreciate.


Appreciate what your bf/gf did for you and thank them. It would feel good for them to appreciate you right?




The world is very big. For you and your partner to meet each other, its already all part of fate. Ok, maybe this sounds corny, but anyway the him/her that you're holding on now may be the one who is going to walk with you down the road when you're both old. Its always a risk being in a relationship, but since you're in it why not make it a great one??




TO ALL THE LOVERS AND EVERYONE WHO BELIEVES IN LOVE, HOPE THAT YOU'LL HAVE YOUR HAPPILY EVER AFTER SOMEDAY!!!!







(Its all my own opinion, you may find it wrong or something left out, but i just did this post cause suddenly want to write.)

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