Single Parents

Although our mindsets are opening up and people are not as conservative as before, but some things it is still hard to accept for our society. One of which is single parenting.

It's quite common nowadays to hear about your friend having a shot-gun marriage or your friend's friend being a single dad or mum.

Having a complete family or a single parent family, its always with the same goal, that is to provide the best that they can for their child.

However, there is still people who discriminate single parents.

Even government ain't offering much help to them. Like they don't have a share for the baby bonus.

When will we all start opening up and start recognizing the existence of them??

It is not easy bringing up a child, especially with everything rising in prices. And it's even more not easy for a single parent.

Emotionally, they have to be the mum and dad to their child. And financially, they have to provide everything.

Maybe one of the reasons why government ain't offering much help is because they don't want to encourage it. You know, maybe some people who don't wish to get married but they wish to have a child. But in my point of view, it should be quite rare lor..

And I think every one hope to have a happy and complete family for their child, but not everyone can.

Since this is a case then all the more they should be offered more perks and privileges.

And to people who tend to discriminate single parents, thinking usually their child tends to be turn bad when they grow up because they don't have a complete family, please do also take note that there are a lot of other spoilt and rude kids I've seen around coming from a complete and rich family too.

How the child turn out to be depends on how you educate him and how much time and love you give him.



Not by whether he's going to a branded school or whether you earn a lot or whether he have both mummy and daddy.

Please do remember behind everyone there is a story. Don't judge them because you will never know what they had gone through and maybe you won't be able to be as strong as them.

To all single mummies or daddies out there,

Being a parent is already very great, but being a single parent needs to give 2 times more effort.

I SALUTE YOU ALL!!!!!

*Talking about this topic I really have to thank Gordan for being by my side all these while. Love you hubby!*

I'm thinking whether to write my blog now or later in the night. Cause I'm so drowsy now la!! All because of Gordan...

WHY??

Read on and you'll know...

Yesterday met up with Enqi and Ray. Cause need to pass her the contact lens that she asked me to buy too. Before meeting her, I went to Watson first cause need to buy facial wash and makeup remover. But I didn't see the facial wash on the rack lei, wa lao, don't tell me not selling liao, or maybe it's sold out??

What I'm looking for.....

This facial wash is real good lor. Specially for people with oily skin. Currently me and Gordan have been using this for at least the past half a year.

Anyway, since cannot find then no choice lor. So I was going to walk to Popular when Enqi call me tell me she reach liao. So went down to meet her and we went to Starbucks for coffee.

Chatted till 10 plus then Gordan came to pick me after his game. And an embarrassing thing happen lor! I was wearing shorts yesterday, and before I came out of the house, the string in front drop liao. But at that time the shorts was still quite tight on me, so I just wear it out. But I think maybe because sitting down for a long time, I've stretch it. So when I stood up to walk to Gordan's car, my shorts was almost dropping! Even worse after that we went to eat with his friend first before going home lor. And when I got off the car, I had to fold my shorts into my panties lor, to prevent it from falling down. *Paiseh*

Anyway talkative Gordan chatted with his friend till 2am then we went home. But due to yesterday afternoon's nap, I can't sleep in the night. So played my handphone de game till 4am plus. Then when I finally managed to sleep, I had nightmare!!!!! Very complicating dream lor.. Difficult to put in words. Woke up call Gordan and tell him I had nightmare, expecting him to sayang me. (Cause I'll always do that if he had nightmare) End up, he asked me what did I dream, then I answer him liao he fall back to sleep lor!!! I was so angry la, that I totally no mood to sleep liao.

And after that he woke up ask me why I'm angry. Then I told him what happen and he say he don't even know he wake up lor!! That pig...

So that's why I'm so drowsy now, after only having like less than 2 hrs of sleep...

Guess I'll write the post later when I wake up and more clear-minded ba..

But comes to think of it, this is already very long post liao.....

It's time for a little pampering.....

Shiseido Blackhead Mask

I totally love this mask lor!! (Although it makes me look ghost having it on...) Cause I got a lot of blackheads and they're so stubborn, even using Biore pore packs doesn't help. So in the end everytime have to go through the painful way of squeezing them. But with Shisheido Blackhead Mask, it solve my problem!! Although not totally lah....


Just apply then wait for it to dry then peel it off! (Don't put too long hor, or you'll have a very painful time peeling off..) Then you'll be able to see all the blackheads on the mask, and helps to firm your skin too!! But if you are interested to get it, then you got to go online stores search for it ba, cause not available in Singapore I think....

What else to do on a boring day at home leh??

CAMWHORE lah!!!!!

Notice anything different about me??

Discover it yet???












I finally got my new lenses!!!!!

Love the new colour.....










Weather has been so warm lately......

Maybe I should tie up my hair???

How would this look??

Or how about this??? (haha, I'm vain)



Besides pampering myself, got to pamper Gordan too lor....

Art and Craft time!!!!

All the materials needed..

What can I do with these leh???








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Tadah!!!!

Not done yet... Cause I can't find the colour pencils!!! But hopefully Gordan likes it ba....









Happy day!!!

Lying on the bed waiting for Gordan to be home, lots of thoughts came to my mind. Its then that I realise a lot of things.

Love isn't complicating at all.

Because love is a feeling derived from oneself. It's not because what he had bought for you, what surprises he had given you, how sweet he treated you or how much he told you he loved you. But its just simply, out of no reasons, that you loved him so much.

Just the thought of his smile, seeing his picture or him holding your hands makes your day.

And that kind of feeling started from the first time you fall in love with him.






I always had the thinking that, I don't want to have a relationship with super sweetness for the first few months and things getting bored after that. And a lot of relationships I've seen had become like that. That is why in my relationships, I have always tell them, no matter how long we are together, please do treat me the same as the first day we are together.




Gordan isn't someone who sweet talks or do any romantic stuff for me. But deep down inside, we both know how much we loved each other. And that's enough.




I can't say I know everything about love, and I have to admit, I am kinda stupid in love. Cause when I love someone, I'll give them my all and do anything for them. Not even protecting myself from getting hurt. I guess that is what most people would do also ba... Maybe that's why there's a saying that love is blind.




I guess there is always that someone for everyone. But its only sooner or later that you'll get to meet him. And when you do, cherish that relationship because it ain't easy to fall in love and even more to stay in love. If things didn't managed to work out in the end, treat it as an experience and let the relationship be a nice memory for you. But never, stop believing in love.

*Just a random post today, some of my thoughts...*

Loneliness.

It's suffocating, it's frustrating, it's so unbearable.

I feel like I don't have you anymore...

I'm in love with

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(paiseh, can't find other better pics..)

They've got such an amazing voice lor...

I'm a fan.

(Jia you! wo yong yuan zhi chi ni!*waving poms-poms around*)

*Joking, I still not so crazy to be so die hard fan... But seriously do check out their songs. Confirm guarantee nice!!!*

Check up day again!!!

Before heading to K.K

Finally its time for check up again!! Waited so long for it lor... And worse still time seem to pass so slow........

I totally love the doctor today. She seem so professional lor... And I didn't know they touch touch the tummy a bit then they will know whether the head is down or not.. Amazing sia... Anyway she told me that if I want to try natural birth, there is around 70%-80% chance. But need to wait till next check up after the scan then can decide.. So need to consider for 2 weeks again....

Gordan accompanied me there today. But he was quite tired so fall asleep waiting for me. (so ke lian lor!) We went for lunch after that at Kopitiam.

My dearest on the phone while eating.

Lunch was damn nice lor! I ate the Teriyaki Chicken Bento, and Gordan ate the Nasi Briyani. Both is delicious lah!

While eating, saw this man sitting at the table next to us, eating too. He was having this rice with chicken, think a indian dish or what. Then when he finished everything liao, and pls note he finished EVERYTHING, he called the manager over and complained to him about the chicken or whatever. I can't hear so I don't know lah.. Then the manager went to change a new plate for him. And he still can eat finish the 2nd plate lor!!!!! I kinda suspect he gek siao de... And the serving they give wasn't little lor, its a lot of rice de.. So I was telling Gordan, if its me, I don't think I would have space for the 2nd plate le ba...

And finally I bought the breast pump...

After so long, I finally got you...

A lot of place got sell, but why I must buy at K.K leh?? Cause got discount ma!! Usual price is $91 but K.K there is selling at $59.90! About $30 off lei....

Back home, was talking to my grandma and my aunt. And they were telling me horrible stories about natural birth la! Making me think twice lor..

They told me my the other aunt, when giving birth, she took the epidural (numb the lower body so no pain). Then she push until her intestine also come out! Cause she cannot feel anything ma, so cannot control how much to push. Then in the end, she spent 1 month in bed lor! And have to go surgery to cut off somemore, cause swollen liao then very pain..

Its scary la, and I don't want to take so long then recover lor.. Since even my caesearean I also 2 weeks recover liao..

And they were telling me to go fortune teller suan the name. Cause since its gonna affect the baby's whole life, and if its a good name, it can help the baby and even bring luck to his parents too!! Hmm, maybe I should do that..

Learn a lot more talking to them lor, really is elders knows best! Hahaha..

*Baby ar, you guai guai ar, when come out must let mummy and daddy dio 4d hor! And be a guai guai baby so mummy won't have a hard time.. And don't always move so violently, mummy will pain de!!*

Enjoy!!!

*Don't you think that guy is so freaking good looking??*

Movie Date!!

A pic before heading out...

I look so short in this pic sia....

Loving you....

I caught this hor!!! Spent $2 only...haha.. With help from Gordan..

A sweet day today!! Finally got to watch movie liao... We went to Suntec today. Actually wanted to watch 'The House Bunny' but last show at 5pm, so decided to watch 'Max Payne'.

We don't even know what show is it at first lor, and I was thinking maybe just a normal action flick. But surprisingly, its quite nice leh!!! The special effects make me think of 'Constantine' and the whole movie is quite exciting too! Quite worth watching!!

While browsing around thinking of what to watch, Gordan called me and pointed to this.

Its back again!!!! Opening 30th of October, meaning I'll be able to watch it before I give birth, yeah!!!

You know hor, I think 'Saw' de producers are super good lor. Usually we see shows having part 1, 2, 3 de, it always get more boring as it goes on. And normally only the 1st episode is nice de. But for 'Saw', I find the 1st one ok only, but it just gets better and better lah!!! And somemore usually the ending is something that you would never expect. Total respect to the producers and scriptwriters!!!!!!!

Oh ya, 30th October also got 'The Coffin' coming out. And Gordan says he want to watch also... Quite rare he want to watch ghost film lor..

I think they heard my pleas, that's why before I give birth coming out so many shows, wahahaha!!!

Anyway, before the movie we went to Carrefour buy snacks, so later can sneak in to cinema. So bad right?? I even wanted to buy drinks also, but Gordan says don't so bad, must at least buy something there ma...hehehe.. Saw the sushi there, look damn delicious la!!! Wanted to buy de, but in the cinema have to mix wasabi all that very ma fan so didn't. (Talking about that, I'm craving for salmon again!)

By the way, walking around Suntec I noticed 1 thing. The people working there like all so attitude de lor! All seem to have a stuck-up face. Thought central de shopping center their customer service should be even better and smile more???

Nevertheless, I'm so happy today la!!!

(Thanks my dear, for your accompany!!!!)

I've been real frustrated lately.... Cause my baby cousin has been sick and she's been crying all day long!!! Although I've been a mom liao, but I just totally can't stand baby crying for too long!! Luckily Jun En wasn't like that last time or else I would have gone bonkers liao....

So in the end, yesterday I went to library!!!!

Went there, grab a few baby books and sat at the cafe reading. Saw a lot of secondary school students there lor, but they weren't studying but were there for lunch!! Nowadays kids are really loaded lor.... I order the fries only already $3.50 liao leh, a meal there would be around $10 ba... Last time think Macdonalds' was a luxury to us liao, but now you see them going carl's jr, swensen even sakae sushi for meals lor... Can't imagine next time maybe kids will be dining at sushi tei, crystal jade, ritz carlton or so liao...


Anyway, after library went to walk around a bit. The things are so cheap lor!! Bought one baby romper at only $5.90!! Next time I'm going to get Gordan to go these neighbourhood shops shop liao...


Went back home for dinner after my shopping. I ate a lot lor!!! Nowadays 1 bowl of rice is not enough for me de, but yesterday was kua zhang la! After my 2nd bowl of rice I still not full lor! But didn't get anymore, cause kinda paiseh to eat so much and don't want overeat wait too full cannot walk...

Gordan came to fetch me after that, and we went back watch some tv and slept liao.

But morning wake up I was feeling so damn tired and both legs aching lor.. So after breakfast went back nap again. Slept till 3 plus then have to get up and bath liao cause meeting Su Wen.

By the way, she's having a girl!!!!

And she was saying like pair our kids up from young.... But please don't lor!!! Like that anything happen is my son have to be responsible leh.... And somemore if like Su Wen de temper, then my son will be having a hard time lor..


Anyway we went for makan at Ajisen! Was deciding between food court or Ajisen de, but because I really super craving for the Volcano Ramen so......hehehe.... Anyway just to comment, the Ajisen now think people go there for the ramen only ba.. Last time used to be my favourite cause they got salmon also. But now don't have liao lor, so sad lor!!! Fish too ex meh??


After eating we went shopping!! Su Wen wanted to buy her handphone pouch while I need to buy the nursing bras. After we got everything we need, we stroll down to TCC for relaxing session. On the way, saw the TCS actress, Li Xin Yu. Then Su Wen mention nowadays 12midnight got replay this show then she acting in it de.


The recent episodes is saying she's married to this guy for like 1 month then she got pregnant, and when she check the baby was 6 weeks liao. So the guy says maybe the first time they do then dio liao. But then she also did with another guy a few days before that guy. So Su Wen was saying, "Why not go ask her whose baby was it??" Think she will probably freak out if we ask her that ba..And I'll probably be rolling on the floor laughing...haha...


Relax session till 10 plus then headed home liao. The train was crowded as usual lor. And as usual no one give up seats for me....sob sob.... But fast trip la so heng...

Gordan dunno what time coming home again, and I'm getting hungry liao!!

That day he was telling me, "Think baby next time at night don't want sleep de.." Then I ask him why lor. And he say, "Cause he every night keep moving when we are going to sleep lor!!"


Cause everytime sleep he's hugging me and I'm facing him so baby move he also can feel it, hahaha... But hopefully won't be that case ba, or else I will be having a hard time liao lor...


Weekend coming liao, finally can go for movie liao, feel that I'm so outdated now lah!! Everyone seen before de show then I go see... Anyway, enjoy your weekends everyone!!

Natural or Caesearean??

Idiot, should have tried natural when I gave birth to Jun En.... Guess I too phobia towards all the pain and all ba... But seriously caesearean also not so relaxed lor!! The wound takes about 2 weeks for the upper layer to heal, but inner layers may take up to 6 months to completely heal!! And of course during this time exercising is banned!! Worse still, after the op, its best not to cough or sneeze or laugh lor.. I didn't know that time, so I choke on water and cough a bit and it hurts lor!! And the irritating thing was, I kept choking on water!!


Anyway seriously feel like trying natural this time round. But read that the baby cannot be bigger than the previous one. Die liao lor, that time Jun En only 2.66kg leh, somemore this pregnancy I ate a lot of durians!!!


I'm damn curious about how the pain is like and how the pain feels like lah! Sadistic me, heheheheh. But if don't try for this one then next one no need try liao lor. Cause if 2nd one is caesearean also then 3rd one must be caesearean....


But I'm feeling scared too!! And somemore the doctor have to stitch below lor, wait in the future I don't dare to do how??


Another reason why I want to try is also because can recover much faster! Then it will be easier for me to take care of baby liao...


Still have to wait till next checkup then can ask doctor. But very fast de la, next week check up liao!! hehehehe... Now is every 2 weeks checkup liao.. I can't wait to go back see doctor lor!!


But anyway, natural birth or not, the most important thing is baby is healthy can le, and I believe that's what every parent wants too.


Will update again once I go for checkup!!!! Wish me luck ya!!

Its amazing how our love blossomed.

And how it had stayed strong till now.

All the great memories you have given me,

I have kept them deeply engraved in my heart.

I'll always be there to bear all the hurt and pain.

And do anything to see that smile on your face.

That's how important you are to me.

I feel so bruised and tired now.

Of hanging on to something that seems to be slipping away.

I have tried to be strong,

But seriously, I just want to be a simple girl who is loved by you.

Will you be my happily ever after??

I've been so lazy lately......

1) Because the weather is freaking hot lately and I'm sweating like nobody's business everytime.

2) Because it always rain out of nowhere.

3) No one is free to accompany me. (sob, sob...)

But finally, today managed to get out of the house. And oh, by the way, Gordan is busy busy this week so he couldn't accompany me too...


Met Adrian for dinner at tampines. We went to have Sakae Sushi, yeah!!!! Thanks to Adrian for letting me indulge in my craving, hahaha...


(By the way, Adrian is a super duper nice guy. And definitely is going to be a good bf and a good husband. With a stable job, he is fun, humourous and gossips!! Hahaha... )

So girls out there, grab him now!!!

(Ya, I'm advertising, or else he keep saying he couldn't get a gf because of me...)

The Mr Nice Guy..

Saw this at Sakae, its a mouse!! Damn kawaii ne....

After dinner, we went off to Coffeebean to meet Su Wen for coffee session. Basically we just bitching around, like what we always do, haha..

Stayed till 11plus then went to take bus home liao... Pregnant ladies need to go home rest liao...hahaha..

Beware!!!!

Tons of camwhored pics of me!!! (I'm having the mood today...hehehe)

Oops...Caught Su Wen in the background...Paiseh..

In Century Sq de toilet

Back home liao...

And the last pic of the day......

I totally don't look pregnant lor!!!! Gordan keep saying I getting fatter, do I look like it???

I still look so pretty la!!!! Wahahhahahhahhahah......

Saw this from a magazine............

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Do you find that she look like "Shrek" de baby?????

Shopping for more baby stuff today!!

The date is approaching liao, got to faster stock up the baby stuffs!!

Thanks to Gordan's mom, she was the one who sponser them...

We headed to Giant today. But seriously not much baby things there lor.. And somemore we were quite rush for time cause Gordan got to meet his friend after that and got to go back office for some work too. But managed to buy most of the baby things there plus Gordan bought a lot of titbits also cause they were so cheap!!


We went for dinner next at a coffeeshop in Pasir Ris. The zi-char there is like so popular lor!! There were so many people eating.... But we weren't thinking of eating zi-char today so I ate the sliced fish bee hoon and Gordan had the Tom Yam soup. The fish was super fresh lor, but overall its ok only, not really very nice.


After the very full dinner, Gordan sent me to Tampines cause he got to meet his friend liao and I also got some other baby stuff to buy.


Remember I said in the previous post I was at the Kiddy palace at Marina Sq and the sterilising tablet was selling at $9.90?? I saw it in Tampines de branch $8.10!!! Kns lor, why different branch got different pricing de ar??


I went to walk around for a while. But don't know is it because of the big tummy now, walk a while I'm getting tired liao...


Actually supposing to meet Su Wen de, but she say she's tired today so don't want to meet liao, so I went home lor...

Tired but fruitful day today! Hmmm... Maybe tomorrow I'll go to the library to read up more about baby stuff....